How To Put The Spark Back Into Your Relationship/Marriage 

What happens when the honeymoon stage and the newness of the new relationship is over? How about when the excitement has worn off and the passion is gone? Frustration, loneliness, and boredom can set in. Your relationship or marriage might not be dead, but it’s on life support. Some couples may not even touch each anymore and are no longer attracted mentally or physically to each other. If you are experiencing these emotions or headed down this road, then I am here to help you.

Within a relationship or marriage, put a strategic plan in place to keep your love alive. For example, if I buy a plant, I have to make sure I feed the plant by giving the plant water and sunlight. The plant will grow when the plant has what it needs. Likewise, your relationship or marriage will blossom and grow when both individuals are getting their needs met.

Relationships and marriages in this day and age can be a challenge to maintain. For example, two people may be working full-time to provide for their family and most of their time is spent at work. They barely see each other and when they do, they are tired.  Their job has taken all of their time and energy. Too tired to talk, date or find out how the other person is doing. Relationships and marriages cannot grow under these type of circumstances.

Below are four action steps that can be taken to put the spark back in your relationship or marriage:

1)  Have Fun Together. Make sure your relationship or marriage is always full of fun and excitement. Be the life of the party, within your very own relationship or marriage. For example, create moments that will make the both of you laugh and always keep your sense of humor in the relationship.

2) Check your energy level. For example, I see people in the morning getting their coffee and energy drinks, to make sure they are alive and active on their job. People make it a priority to have a full tank of energy at work but what about your energy when your with your love one. Make sure to keep a high level of energy in your relationship or marriage, so date night can happen or amazing sex.

3)  Put your relationship first. For example. on a “To Do List” important tasks are listed by month, day and year. Therefore, important ways to enhance, build, and support your significant other should be listed by month, day, and year. Your relationship or marriage should be at the top of your list. The needs of your relationship or marriage should always come first.

4)  Communicate frequently with understanding. Always communicate with the intent to understand one another. Communication brings the necessary closeness that is needed to continue to bond with each other. This bond and intimacy continues to grow,
when effective communication is executed.

Just Keep Going

Some people are starting off this year with several problems, set backs, challenges and health issues. Everyone is not winning. The reality is that we all have problems and concerns that need to be dealt with. Giving up, quitting or throwing in the towel should never be an option.

Suffering a set back in life does not give anyone an excuse to mentally stay there. Never relive the moment of a setback. Let the disappointment go and keep moving. Being stuck in the same place mentally, will cause challenges in getting ahead.

Below is a list of five steps, that will promote forward movement in life:

1) Go harder!  Always remain consistent, in striving for your goals, no matter how many setbacks you encounter. This will help in your personal development.

2) Watch unforeseen obstacles! Obstacles always seem to come when least expected or when you’re trying to better yourself in life or execute your goals.

3) Stay Focused! Focusing on strategic goals will result in accomplishing goals early. Never let a bad situation take away the main focus of setting your goal.

4) Reevaluate the game plan! “When it is obvious that the goals cannot be reached, don’t adjust the goals, adjust the action steps”, says Zig Ziglar. This quote reinforces why new and improved actions need to be set when previous goals are not met.

5) Keep going! Figure out a way to accomplish and get what you want. This will help overcome any obstacle or challenges present.

Look Inside Of You

You will be surprised how many people look all around them when they need help. Some people will search everywhere to get the help they need. Don’t get me wrong, it is nothing the matter with reaching out for help in order to find your way. If you need help in any area of your life you should go get it. Mentors and counseling is very important. However, looking within yourself is just as important too. The solutions to your problems are inside of you.

What can you do and what do you have on the inside of you that can help you with your problems? Your gifts, ideas, and the natural talent that you were born with can be your solution. I remember, I was watching a movie and this guy was trying to find the cure to this zombie problem. It turned out he was the cure. The antidote inside of him changed the circumstances around him. This cure eliminated the zombies from multiplying. Likewise, you have to realize you have the antidote inside of you to change your situation.

Five Reasons Why You Should Put The Cell Phones Away When Your Out On A Date.

The other day I took my wife out on a date and we went to a restaurant. The restaurant was nice. The food, service, the conversation we had and the overall restaurant experience was great. Love was in the air and we had a very good time. We actually had fun talking and laughing. As I looked around the restaurant I noticed people at the other tables. Some people were talking and some people were not focused on each other at all. I seen people sitting at the table with someone but most of their attention was on their cell phone.

I think it is bad etiquette and it is not a good look when your out with someone and your on your cell phone. It is hard to get to know someone better and connect with them when your cell phone is in control of you. Some people just can’t seem to turn their cell phone off or even put it away when their with someone. If you really want to get to know someone better you should talk to them and give them your undivided attention. Here are five reasons why you should put away your cell phone when your on a date.

  1. Attention. The person you are with should be the only thing that is getting and keeping your attention. That person should also feel that they have your undivided attention only.
  2. Conservation. You might miss out on a great conversation and an opportunity to get to know someone better.
  3. Body Language. Another form of communication is body language. The body language and vibe can tell you a lot about someone. You can pick up on certain things that are not spoken at all through body language. For example, facial expressions, as well as the energy in the room.
  4. Distractions. If you want to have a strong relationship get rid of the things that can distract you and hinder your relationship. A cell phone can be a distraction.
  5. Too much time on your cell phone when your with your spouse can actually hurt your relationship. The message your sending to your spouse when your on your cell while your out on a date, is that your cell phone is more important than them. This is not a message you want to send.