Everyone will face problems in life. Some people experience bad relationships, job loss, evictions, health issues, and loss of a loved one. However, the answer in facing each problem is to come up with a solution. A solution could be getting counseling, talking to someone you trust, exercising, and creating goals for your life. Solutions are the key to overcoming the storm you’re dealing with. Dealing with difficult situations are apart of life. As you continue to deal with your problems with the best solutions, you will be successful in managing those problems.
Identifying and recognizing the problem is important. Finding a solution is even better. The next time a problem shows up in your life, immediately start focusing on the solution because that will lead to success.
What happened to all the goals you wanted to accomplish back in January? Whatever happened to the vision board you created? How about the ideas you were excited about that could change your life, but was never turned into a reality? What about the idea of creating a better future for yourself and your family? What happened to the self improvement plan to be a better person? Didn’t you say, you wanted to eat right and exercise, so you can have a healthy lifestyle?
Perhaps, the problem is you’re too comfortable, engaging in laziness or entertaining procrastination. Maybe the comfort of where you are feels much better. You will always remain in this place until you do something to change your circumstances. Time is of the essence and it’s important to be serious about changing your life.
Have you ever wanted something so bad but it seems like it’s taking to long too come true? The dream is taking a long time to become a reality. You continue to work harder and smarter and nothing happens. It can be very frustrating when someone gives their all and they keep coming up short. Dreams, ideas, goals, and reaching the next level takes time.
My daughter plays basketball and for basketball homework, I told her to watch “The Last Dance Documentary” on Netflix about the Chicago Bulls. When Michael Jordan won his first Championship he was so relieved. As he hugged the trophy, he said repeatedly, “seven year struggle, seven year struggle”. It took Michael Jordan seven years to win his first championship and in other situations it takes longer than that. Anything worth having is worth fighting for. In order to achieve success, you have to keep going and quitting should never be an option.
When I watch movies I like to see the year the movie was released, so I can see how long ago it was. For example, if a movie came out two or three years ago, I realize how fast those years went by. Some years went by so fast it’s even hard to remember what happened that year. Time periods and years are outdated like a cell phone that recently came out.
It also seems like everything is designed to take your time away from you. Breaks are shorter at work with longer working days. Social media has made notifications and the like button so addictive, some people will spend hours seeking validation. Time has become so important with social sites, they now allow users to see how much time was spend on the app. Imagine having more time for yourself, so you can do the things you love. To manage your time consider the following.
Keep a track of your time and monitor where it’s going.
Control the clock. You cannot stop time, but you can control how you use it.
The year 2020 was like a rollercoaster with all the ups and downs. 2020 also felt like you’re on an airplane flying to your next destination an you experience turbulence. Death occurred, lessons were learned, and you realized what is more important in life. It is good to reflect on experiences and what was learned in the past, but you have to take the leap and focus on the future. As you step into 2021, stay positive, set goals, create memorable moments and I hope this New Year brings you new opportunities.
There are two types of energy in the heart of this country. One consist of love and the other consist of hate. In today’s world you see more hate than love. Hate is one of the worst types of energy a person can possess. Hate is in the news, on social media, and in the thinking and actions of others. Some people are even surrounded with a personal energy of hate. Their fragrance is hate and you can feel the negative vibe in the atmosphere. People who allow themselves to have hate in their hearts and minds, toward others, can make it difficult to live in peace.
On the other hand, love is a one of the best types of energy to have toward others. Love is like a clear blue sky and ocean. Love is welcoming and wants to see everyone win. Love allows others to help one another and considers other people’s feelings. People who allow themselves to have love in their hearts and mind, toward others, will make the world a better place. With all the hate that is going on in the world, be different and show love.
Stress is defined as a state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse or very demanding circumstances. Stress can also cause health problems such as high blood pressure and severe headaches. The year 2020 has already been a stressful year and there is no need to continue traveling down a road full of chaos.
Peace of mind and good health, both mental and physical should be the goal. If you want to beat stress, consider the following.
1. Let it go. Mentally you have to move on. Walk away from a task and then come back to it.
2. Quit. For example, if a job or anything you’re involved in is causing you stress and making you unhappy, then it’s time to move on. Good health and peace of mind is more important than having money and being sick.
3. Always have options in life. More options give you more opportunities.
4. Make a decision to be happy every day and never let other circumstances take away your peace.
I had the opportunity to speak to a group of young black men. One of the questions that was asked were, What do you do as a young black man, while driving and you are stopped by a white police officer? I thought that was a great question, especially when you see white police officers killing black men and women on the news. As a black man in America getting stopped by the police is a very uncomfortable feeling. Below is my list of what to do if your a black man or black woman and your stopped by the police.
Pull over and turn your car off and put your hands on the steering wheel.
If you get stopped by the police at night, turn your inside light on. Turning your inside light on will let the police officer know you have nothing to hide, and it might make them feel safe. Some police officers are scared to death, while approaching a car. They want to get home safely to their family too.
Keep your hands on the steering wheel and in plain view at all times.
When the officer approaches your car and he or she ask for your driver license, ask them is it okay to get your license before you make any moves.
Remain calm and don’t verbally argue with the police officer no matter the reason for the traffic stop. There are other ways to fight a battle and the goal is to survive and make it back home to your family.
One thing I do know about a storm is that a storm will eventually come to an end and life will continue to go on. The world as it is right now will try to get back to normal, however some things may not return. Certain job industries might be gone forever and businesses are thinking about how to make a come back.
Some people who are suffering at this moment are also thinking about what to do next. Serious decisions have to be made for the future and for your business. Businesses are having challenges too.
The reason why I like playing chess is because the game teaches you how to think ahead and problem solve before you make a move. Whatever your next move is going forward in life make sure it’s well thought out, strategically planned, and takes you to where you want to go in the future.
I once read a quote that asked a great question. The quote asked, “Are you living or Are you just existing? I believe that quote is a self – reflecting quote that makes a person evaluate their life. The quote also makes a person consider if they’re moving forward, standing still, or going backwards. This does not just apply toward movement but this also applies to living a life and creating moments that will cause happiness.
Don’t settle for less in this life, take vacations, spend time with family, do something on your bucket list, and design a life that is truly desirable. Creating happy and joyful moments will turn into unforgettable memories. Since, tomorrow is not promised acting now is a must, if you want to experience everything this world has to offer.
Procrastination means to defer action; delay: to procrastinate until an opportunity is lost. According to this definition, procrastination can lead to missed opportunities. The action that was suppose to be carried out, in order to get to the next level in life, was never taken. Many people said, in 2018 and 2019 they planned to accomplish specific task but it turned out to be all talk that really sounded good and no action. This is a brand new year 2020 and ask yourself what changes need to be made to see a specific outcome? Defeat procrastination by finding the root cause of why it is happening in the first place. This will help identify the areas that need to be changed to ensure procrastination is not a stumbling block in accomplishing what you want to do in life.
Random acts of kindness is being nice to someone just to put a smile on their face and to make their day better. Has the thought of other people crossed your mind? Being considerate and thinking about other people feelings and not just yourself is a good quality to have.
I think it is great when I go into this Wawa around the corner from me and everyone hold the door for the other person right behind them. There is also a homeless man sitting on the ground eating a breakfast sandwich and he has a cup of coffee because someone brought him one. This is what kindness is all about. Kindness is simply helping other people. This world, your community and neighborhood needs more people that care, not just with their words but by their actions.
Are you like the people in the above picture who are walking pass a person who need help? If you are, then you need to check your heart. No excuses.
Think of other people and find out how they’re really doing so you can truly help them. For example, pick up the phone and call someone and find out how life is treating them.
Help somebody. You can help people in different ways. For example, your money, your time, a kind word, pay for the car behind you at a toll booth or drive thru. If you have it, leave an extra big tip at a restaurant.
Have a giver mindset. You have takers and you have givers. Some people just love to be on the receiving end and never give anything in return. Karma is not always about bad things coming back to you. But when you do kind deeds, good things will come back to you even when you’re not expecting it.